In the Portrait of the Connected Life, we see that going backward with our story is part of living a connected life with Christ. We can sometimes think of this as simply sharing our full-blown testimony with a small group or another individual in a planned, scripted environment. But more often, going backward with our story means willingly sharing short stories, anecdotes, and personal experiences with another person to give glory to God. How often do we miss opportunities to encourage others (and ourselves) by not sharing stories of God’s faithfulness in our own life? We certainly don’t want to make everything about us, but the truth is that everything is about Him, and there are several reasons we should be quick to share meaningful stories.
First, telling our story can bring healing. Recently I had a friend stop by my office to say hello. I had not seen her in over twelve years, and we had a lot of ground to cover as we attempted to catch up. After I had shared details about a particularly difficult season from the last decade, I realized that it was cathartic to describe that time to someone who had no preconceived opinions about my situation. I felt heard and seen as she got tears in her eyes listening to me, and I felt peace knowing that the story was in the past and God had been with me through it all. It was a balm to my soul. Sharing our stories helps us to make sense of things that happened, clarifies the big picture, and shows us how God was — and is — at work. It is important for us to process our past experiences and to be ready to verbalize what He has done, which can bring healing and comfort in hard places.
Telling my story to my friend brought me healing, and at the same time, it brought her encouragement. (I know because she told me!) Many times, sharing stories inspires others in their own situations. Instead of just sharing truth or a different perspective, when we share a personal experience, we give the gift of allowing others to extract their own meaning and application. This can be far more valuable than if we just tell them what to think or tell them something they already know. When we tell someone a story of our own experience, we give them a tangible example of how a similar situation played out (for better or worse) in our life, and they can examine what they are to do with that information. Many times, it breathes new life into someone (the actual definition of “inspire”!).
Also, sharing stories connects us. When we share a story, especially one that requires vulnerability, we foster intimacy and meaningful connection. It allows us to be seen, understood, and loved. Perhaps being truly seen is something not everyone wants, but we are built for relationship, and when we are seen and loved, we get a taste of the Father’s love for us. By sharing our stories, we are making a bid for connection. We are finding common ground, relating as fellow humans, and telling someone that we trust them with a little piece of our life. This fosters relationship, and it is in the context of relationship that growth and sanctification occurs.
One more reason we should be quick to tell our story is that for believers, our story is God’s story of redemption, and we should always be in the business of telling His story. When I am afraid or ashamed of my story, embarrassed or protective of it, I concern myself more with my image than God’s image. I am a sinner, and He is my Savior. I am a failure, and He is my Redeemer. The Bible has some stories of people that provide a good example for us, and it also has tons of descriptive stories of people who blew it. Those stories all comprise the one story that matters most, and I can’t imagine any of those details being left unshared. God’s glory is the purpose and the point, so far be it for me to try to control the narrative in my own life.
When we take time to reflect on what the Lord is doing and share frequent “God stories” with others, we inspire, heal, connect, and give honor to our Father. Our lives are not our own, but they are a living testimony to the Master Storyteller. What story of God’s work in your life are you being asked to share today?